Dear ABBY: My husband and I have been married for 12 years. Things were good at first. However, he has let me down many times by not helping with bills, stress, etc.
He recently lost a job, which has added to my stress because we now have a child.
I have been communicating with an old work friend who makes me feel like we would be great together.
He is also married but we are both unhappy in our marriages. He wants me to move and be with him, but although I can see us together, I’m not sure I want to go where he lives.
Although he has admitted that he is unhappy, he never mentions that he wants a divorce. He only said that he wants us to be together.
I’m torn, Abby. So do I stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of my child, or do I divorce and move out, hoping it all works out? Please help me fix my mind, heart and thoughts. – DISTURBED IN TEXAS
Dear problem: From what you wrote, it seems that while your “old work friend” may be unhappy in his marriage, he has NO plans to divorce his wife even though he would like you to leave your husband, uproot your life and your child’s and be more. geographically convenient – away HIM.
Following this guide, hoping everything will work out without any guarantee of stability for you and your baby, can end in disaster.
Please get your head out of the clouds and start thinking strategically and rationally. Right now, you’re doing neither.
Dear ABBY: I enjoy the work and have good compensation and benefits. I am lucky to work for a progressive and flexible company. However, the atmosphere in our office is very isolating.
My boss is kind and supportive, but overall, I don’t feel much support or kindness from my coworkers.
Most of them are in their 30s and from upper middle class backgrounds. I’m not, and I’m in my early 60s.
People at my workplace are very clicky. They don’t invite me to their activities or interactions. If I make a comment, I’m often ignored.
I’ve tried hard to be friendly, but I don’t get much response. I can look people in the eye and smile, but most won’t say hello unless I do first. This is very depressing. I need advice. – ALBANIA IN OREGON
DEAR REVIEWER: Because the reception you receive from your co-workers is undesirable (to say the least), my first suggestion would be to focus more on the positive aspects of your employment—namely, the pay and benefits—and more a little about friendship.
Decide how many more years you want to work and put it away until you plan to retire.
My second is to simply look for work elsewhere if the isolation becomes too much for you and explain your reason for leaving to your boss during the exit interview.
Dear Abby was written by Abigail Van Buren, also known as Jeanne Phillips, and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Contact Dear Abby at DearAbby.com or PO Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.
#Dear #Abby #leave #unhappy #marriage #reconnecting #friend
Image Source : nypost.com