Are you an ‘energy vampire’? Here are 6 signs that you’re sucking the life out of your friends

Are you sucking the life out of your friends?

Some people can just drain your energy—and not because you had so much fun together.

Nicknamed “energy vampires,” these people drain your emotional energy, intentionally or not.

In the show What We Do in the Shadows, the character of the “energy vampire” Colin Robinson sucks the life out of those around him, boring them with unnecessary chatter and facts in his need to feed.

But there are many different types of these kinds of terrible people, Alla Svirinskaya, a star energy healer and author of the best-selling book The Rules of Energy, told the Daily Mail.

The Chatterbox

Have you ever left a conversation realizing you did most of the talking? It could be alienating your friends.

Alla says, “The other person often feels blocked, unsure of how to interrupt your monologue. They end up exhausted by your relentless demand for attention.

“It’s essential to engage with people rather than talk down to them,” she advised.

manipulator

Some people seem to only reach out when they want something, whether it’s an invitation or some advice.

“Once someone realizes they are being used for their connections and contacts and their generosity has been abused, it can result in a long-term lack of trust in young people,” Alla told the Daily Mail.

“Healthy friendships should benefit both parties.”

Nelly Negative

Do you see the glass half empty? Well, refilling your cup and reframing your mindset takes a lot of friends.

“Behaving this way can make the other person doubt themselves and their positive outlook. They have to ‘shrink’ their light to accommodate your shadow. You need to take things less personally, accept that people make mistakes, and stop twisting narratives to support your idea that everything is negative and hopeless. It’s not!” she said.

rumor

Most people like to get together and have a little gab sesh with their loved ones. But when you’re always gossiping and judging everyone, it can get tiring.

“People often do this to boost their low self-esteem. They exalt themselves by putting others down. Eventually, friends will stop trusting you and your friendships will become shallow and void of any intimacy,” said Alla.

Boat Show

It’s normal to talk about your accomplishments with your friends, but some people have a knack for turning any conversation into self-bragging.

“Even if a friend starts a conversation about their success or glory, this person will find a way to turn it around to how incredible they are,” Alla explained.

“Your friends start to feel like mirrors that you use to admire your reflection. You make people feel lonely in your presence because of your self-absorption and lack of empathy.”

Victim and Eternal Martyr

Is the world against you? Well, if you always act like a victim or a martyr, your friends can be pretty quick.

“These people often ask friends for advice and then lose interest if the friend doesn’t support their victim’s narrative,” Alla said.

“People feel drained when you turn them into a garbage can to dump your toxic gas on, while martyrs suffocate others with their projected guilt.”